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I don’t know if there’s anything in the world more painful than watching your child suffer… whether that be a physical suffering, or an emotional suffering. It’s fair to say that for a parent, this can translate to a physical nearly-pain like feeling. Very hard to describe.

I’ve talked before about the problems we have with Chloe and I don’t want to go into too much here really.

But she’s facing difficulties, socially (amongst other things), and at six years old she’s been having social difficulties for most of her little life.

So the school as a whole have been great at getting an Educational Psychologist referral and appointment but not all that great at any thing else, so today (Friday), I think I’ve finally made the decision to move her to another school. It’s not an easy decision and it’s not set in stone at this point but I owe it to my children to give them the best childhood I can, and the best education and the best school life I can. And having a school that actually seems to care would be a good start.

This crazy beauty deserves the best of everything and that means finding her a school where her teachers don’t find her annoying or irritating (and if they do, they are able to find a more diplomatic and sensitive way of saying so!).

If anyone has experience of moving a child to a new school at about this age (6), I’d love to hear how it went for you. Please share. Thank you.

9 responses to “It’s been a Tough Week.”

  1. Mary Newman says:

    My parents moved me when I was 7. Believe me – the earlier the better. I was having similar sounding social issues (when I was 6, my teacher at parents’ evening refused to talk about my grades in english/maths even when my mum asked and instead just blamed her migranes on me and said how terrible I was). And don’t even talk about my relationships with other pupils!

    10 years later, when I left my “new” school having achieved straight As, I could hardly remember any of that – which at the time had been really traumatising. It might be hard at first, but it is definantly the right choice. It makes a world of difference when you feel as if the teachers understand, you even just a little bit – believe me!

    Mary.

    • Charlotte Gray says:

      thank you. I understand earlier the better, it of course makes sense. I moved schools several time as a child so I have first hand experience, but not as a parent if that makes sense. Your teacher sounds horrific and I’m glad your move worked out so well for you. I hope it’s the same for my daughter!

  2. Missey says:

    Six is a very good age to move a child to a new learning environment, earlier the better. Obviously you know she deserves to be better understood, otherwise you would not be making this change. I don’t know what autism education is like in the UK, nor what spectrum Chloe falls under, also my suggestion would be to take as much time as you can afford to find her a good placement that also works for you. If you have met with a parenting group, ask them for referrals. Any medical professionals that you have met with regarding Chloe may have some good input too.

    Good luck! These are hard decisions, but know in your heart that what you are doing is for the good of your gorgeous girl!

    • Charlotte Gray says:

      Thanks Missey. We have already viewed a school we love (a while ago when we first toyed with this idea). We are waiting now to hear if there would also be a space for our other daughter. Thanks for taking the time to reply. x

  3. Ladymoonlight says:

    Primary school is always a traumatic experience for those who dare to be different simply because it’s non-selective. Everyone at the same age,from the same area is thrown into one sack and forced to spend half of their lives together. I always had trouble socializing with people whose behaviour and stupidity I found difficult to bear. But now, when I look at my school life I treat it as a process of creating my own circle of trust which blossomed fully during my studies. I understood that there’s no need to please those who aren’t worth it and the narrow group of weirdos, loners, social paranos who happen to be my best friends is one of the greatest achievements of my life. Nonetheless, this knowledge does not mean that I do not shudder and clench my fists when I think hear about some idiots bullying my older son.

  4. Jo says:

    I think its so tough deciding whether or not to change your childs school. Before we moved into the house we are in now, we was considering moving to another area which was quite a distance from the kids school’s. We didn’t obviously end up going to that area and that was because I didn’t want my boys to have to adjust to a new school, make new friends etc. Even though Harveys only 4, he has he little friends in nursery, who he talks about constantly. I used to lay awake at night thinking how awful it would be to take him away. Im such a worrier. Plus the fact both the boys go to damn good schools.

    Your situation is slightly different though. It sounds like Chloe needs a lot of care, attention and support from the teachers. If shes not getting this, then you’re definitely making the right choice to move her. If I was having trouble with the teachers at either of my boys school, without a doubt I would move them. You’re doing the right thing.

  5. Charli says:

    I don’t have any experience but I guess the earlier the better, you have a beautiful daughter – she looks so full of character and has an awesome head of hair!!!

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