Just Charlie G

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If you’re following our story, you’ll know that Chloe, age 8, is currently on a waiting list for Autistic Spectrum Disorder Assessment. It’s a long old process which I’ve covered in other posts. Her anxiety has really stepped up a gear over the last few months, with panics daily or every other day for a period of time, thankfully that seems to have settled down again but the anxiety attacks always return at some point.

We now have a second referral in place for Chloe, after a meeting with the ASD team, they were extremely concerned about Chloe’s anxiety levels and suggested a referral to CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service).  Again, nothing happens quickly and there’s a long wait for this, so I’ve been forced to find other ideas to help us get through these panic attacks.

We’ve long been aware of how important breathing is and as soon as we (either Chloe or me) become aware of what’s coming we start with the deep breathing. A problem for us is that most of Chloe’s panics occur when she’s alone in bed, so by the we are aware there’s a problem Chloe is usually too far into a panic to come back easily.

So I came up with the idea of putting together a little kit of things that can help her to relax before we get to full on panic attack stage. I thought I was being super clever, but it turns out that such kits are already a “thing”, and are known generally as Self Soothing Boxes, because the idea is for the child to use them to calm themselves.

So putting together our kit was quite easy, I had lots of ideas, some of which I’ve not yet done, but will mention at the end of the post. The items I included for Chloe are quite specifically chosen for her, some of her needs (and indeed issues) are very sensory, so I chose sensory products to go inside our box.

So I started by buying a box, something pretty and appealing for an 8 year old girl.

I think this one was £6.99 in W.H. Smith from memory.

Self Soothing Box Kids Anxiety (1)Inside I put two chewy bangles. Chloe gets great satisfaction sometimes from chewing, I mostly like her to have chewy jewellery because if she doesn’t have it, she chews her hair or clothes, these cute little bangles are from Gumigem.

Self Soothing Box Kids Anxiety (3)Next I added a little Taggy. Now, parents with babies may already be familiar with Taggies as they often used for babies. I bought this one from Ebay, Chloe, does love a good skull, and I bought it for two reasons. Firstly the fleecy fabric and ribbons feel nice, and for a sensory person, touch is important, and soothing. Secondly because I also bought a bottle of Lavender Essential Oil. I really believe lavender is a relaxing scent so I had the idea to add some drops to the Taggy, so that it was scented. The Essential Oil does not live in the box permanently, but Chloe is under instruction to let me know whenever the fabric needs topping up with scent.

Self Soothing Box Kids Anxiety (4) Self Soothing Box Kids Anxiety (5)Next I added a Fibre Optic lamp. This little bargain was £3 in B&Q in the sale, but they had themed ones (Hello Kitty, One Direction, Moshi Monsters etc) for £6.99. These are really gorgeous, beautiful colour changing lights, and very tactile (but because it was a cheap product I can’t imagine it’ll last too long).

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Next I made up some home-made stress balls. Now I can’t take the credit for the idea but I can’t for the life of me recall where I got the idea from, however, they are so simple to make, basically just stuff some balloons with play doh, that’s it. Mine need a bit more work as they are a bit small and the biro faces are just rubbing straight off, but they work and Chloe gets satisfaction from squeezing them. I have bought stress balls but they never last longer than five minutes!

Self Soothing Box Kids AnxietyThe final item is a bottle of Rescue Remedy. I’m going say straight off that I think Rescue Remedy is a load of nonsense, I don’t believe it does anything. I’m not an 8 year old girl though. I had hoped that there would be a placebo effect when entering a state of high anxiety, so if I told to take some Rescue Remedy to help calm her down, then she would willingly. Again, this item doesn’t  live in the box, but its part of her kit and its where she can see it but can’t reach it, she just has to ask a grown up if she wants a drop.

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That’s everything in Chloe’s box right now but its a work in progress.

Self Soothing Box Kids Anxiety (2)Things still to be added:

I’m sure I’ll get more ideas and keep adding to it. It seems to work well, sometimes she goes and gets it out  herself, and sometimes I have to give her a nudge, and sometimes she’s so far gone its just too late, but I’d recommend it for anyone, even kids who don’t have anxiety. A little box of favourite things to touch and look at can be really calming when a child is a bit over excited!

I’m also expecting delivery, tomorrow hopefully, of a weighted lap pad for Chloe, I don’t really know if weighted items will work for her but I’ve heard a lot of good things about the effect of weighte blankets on children with ASD and sensory issues, so I’m optimistic, but I’ll update on that another time.

I hope this post has been helpful to someone out there anyway.




6 responses to “Self Soothing Box for Kids with Anxiety”

  1. Lynette says:

    This is brilliant! I have anxiety and panic attacks for 20 years and I wish I knew then what I knew now. Your box idea is going to be so helpful. I began using lavender oil last year and it’s fantastic stuff. I also noticed an extreme difference when I began taking vitamin B complex, something to ask the DR about perhaps? My dr said she’d never heard of it for panic but I visited nomorepanic.co.uk and it was mentioned on there. I swear it’s made the world of difference to me, I am a different person now. Positive thoughts too, and when your daughter is older perhaps teach her not to fear the panic, to welcome it so it will pass as it always has before. Breaking that circle of fear is so empowering. Good luck!

    • justcharlieg says:

      Thanks so much for your comment. We are working on the reason we panic and the biological process so she understand its the body over-reacting so she can start to try and counteract the fight or flight instinct… She’s getting there, I’m not sure if she’ll ever be free of it but I hope we can start to reduce the frequency. I will look at VitB, as well as the website you recommended, thank you!

  2. I think the box is a wonderful idea, and, if it offers even the slightest release from anxiety, it is worth the time and effort you have put into it.


  3. emma says:

    Like the above poster I find vitamin B complex helps enormously with my mood and anxiety levels. Also lavender oil, I use a few drops in the children’s bath and it seems to help all of us calm down. I love the idea of the box and will use some ideas with my son who also suffers from anxiety. Brilliant post. x

    • justcharlieg says:

      Thanks so much for your comment. I’ve been a fan of lavender for a long time, even before I had kids, it’s great stuff. Am definitely going to look into the vitamin thing, thank you.

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